I ran into another woman who played in that section on Monday. She expressed her frustration with that situation, and what can we do about his bullying, and yadda, yadda, yadda... I smiled and nodded. I've been on the receiving end of his persistence as well, so I know what it's like.
But what I wanted to say was that I didn't agree with her frustration. We've known what he's like for 8 years now, and we're all big boys and girls. We should be able to make the adjustments he's asking for, regardless of if we think they're correct or not. Again...going back to the dictatorship. This woman later emailed me, and was sort of prodding me to agree with her. I avoided replying to her. I just didn't want to get in the middle of it.
So what was the eye-opening part? I (and literally every one of us) do the same thing here in blogland.
- How many obviously bad decisions/choices do we read that we don't say anything about (yet gossip about behind the person's back)?
- How many extra-marital affairs (real or cyber) are blogged about that we know will end badly in one way or another (yet encourage and give high-fives for)?
- How many family woes do we read of (yet don't offer constructive help, rather 'help' by relating similar stories)?
- How hypocritical do we find others in their writings about friends and/or enemies (yet smile and nod at them)?
- How many times do we shake our heads at someone's writing (yet seek out someone to chat with who shares your own opinions)?
I'm guilty of it. You're guilty of it. It happens in real life. It happens here.